Guys Suck

Just when I start to think there may be some hope for the male gender, something happens to make me change my mind.

I have been talking to a guy online for a few months now, just as friends, and we have been getting along really well. There has never been any mention of us trying to date or anything—in fact we tell each other about our failed attempts at dating.

We have touched a few times on the idea of meeting, but somehow the subject always gets changed and we never make plans. A couple of weeks ago, I was talking with another friend who asked me why I had never met him. I had no answer—there was no good reason why we hadn’t tried to meet. So, that night I left him a message telling him that since we skirted around with the issue so much, why not just go ahead and meet. I left my phone number and told him to call if he was interested.

Now, I saw this as very non-threatening. I didn’t expect that a simple message like that would strike fear into a man. But, somehow it did. It caused yet another man to fall off the face of the earth. I did talk to him on yahoo once since then, and he let me know that he had the number, but “hadn’t had the chance to call.” I took that as truth at the time, but it has been two weeks now. Surely he has had five minutes that he could have called in. Here’s the kicker--now he won’t even talk to me online. I would like to think that he isn’t avoiding me, but I have a hard time believing that. We usually talked three or four nights a week, and since I did the unthinkable and gave him my number, I have only seen him online the one time. Not that I think he hasn’t been online—I think he has his stealth settings on so that I won’t see him online.

If he wasn’t interested in meeting me, I wouldn’t have cared. If I somehow implied that I wanted to date him in my short little message and that scared him off, then I am terribly sorry for that—that was not my intention at all. I just thought, hey, we get along so great online, why not meet and have another “real” friend—not just an online buddy. All I seemed to accomplish though was to lose my online buddy.

To my online not-so-buddy anymore, if you are still reading this blog, please know that I am sorry. I didn’t mean to overstep my bounds as an online friend. I honestly thought I was taking things to where they were naturally progressing, but I guess I thought wrong. It wouldn’t have bothered me in the least for you to just tell me that you weren’t interested in meeting. I miss talking to you and I hope we can still have some type of a friendship, even if only online.